Love's Hard: The Good, Bad, and the Reality

June 18, 2012 - 2:15am

"I look at love in two ways- which are Life's Over Valued Experiences and Living On Valuing Everything."

     Personally, there's something about caring for a person that has the potential to make your bad day turn into an unimaginable day of bliss; someone who can bring the best out of you whenever you feel as if you aren't the person you want to be.  There's an amazing feeling that is presented to you when that person calls you just to greet you and check on you, or even to make sure you're okay.  I look at a significant other as an individual who compensates for the links that you were currently missing from your life- as you continue to become a better person individual day by day.  This phenomenal emotion called love isn't just relationship thing, it's a bonding with self that many people fail to piece together as well.  

     There's two different ways to view love.  Of course, there's a positive, and then, a negative way to see love.  One way to look at it is from a "Value what I choose" standpoint.  This way of looking at love brings some form of limitations to many relationships because, as humans, we only want to accept what we choose to in relationships.  If you are naive ignorant towards your own flaws and your own personal experiences, chances are, you won't go in a relationship with a full accepting and positive correcting attitude.  It'll take much more work to become a better lover, but first thing (besides the establishing of the foundation) is that you have to understand that it's possible to lose out due to not seeing within self.


     The other way to view love is with an open heart and open mind for life situations.  A person who understands more and is willing to learn more about life, although that person has struggled in his/her own life makes for a better universal lover.  The reason being is because that person will go into a relationship knowing that it takes effort to build from the ground up.  Even when it comes down to the mistakes or the faults of the individual, that person will be more open to correcting the mistakes he/she made for the betterment of the relationship.  If you can acknowledge that you aren't the only person in the world who goes through triumphs, tragedies, adversities, and life in general, it makes it much easier to make transitions in relationships.

     With those two views of love, now, the other point that has to be made is that LOVE IS NOT PERFECT.  That's the reality of love.  Many people are looking for the ideal relationship- the person of their dreams that can be dropped from Heaven by God as angelic creatures.  But, it definitely doesn't work that way, and I know we can only imagine what it would be like if it was that easy to gain love in that fashion.  It's effort, and building a foundation with guidelines that both people accept.  When we go into relationships underestimation what can be potentially, we may not be prepared for the relationship's ups and downs.  So, with that being said, be realistic, and bring the open minded ability to the mirror before the relationship can be full of love, because love is wholesome, not partial.  Like the wise say so many times, "You cannot love anyone if you don't fully love yourself."